After staring at a diagram for hours, i finally got both headlights working.
i did end up finding a post about the LOM, this was the first time i had heard about such module and from just reading what it does, i knew this was the problem right away.
there is a LOM bypass thread HERE
Module is under the console computer on the passenger side
splice wire: Light green/White with wire: Blue/white
splice wire: Green/blue with wire: Orange/Green
Note: The light green and white wire is the low-beam for left headlight, and the blue and green wire is low-beam for the right.
Note: you will also need to do this regardless if running HID's, working module or not.
This is the dumbest module ever created, it is nice to know if your headlight goes out, but this was more hassle then needed.